LOVE IS NOT POSSESSION OF ANOTHER

What is love to you?  
I think we all have struggled with this, especially those who are in constant search of it.  
What if I were to tell you, that love has been inside of you all along? 
What if I were to tell you, once you love yourself completely then you can love someone else just the same?
Sounds too cliche but, in actuality, this is the case.

Through my life I have found that everything we set out to find, when we are searching and searching for that exact perfect thing, we can't seem to find it.
Does that mean it doesn't exist?
No.
Just like the concept of that perfect person popping into your head, the idea exists.  
But then these scenarios arise:
1. Some people are not sure of exactly the type of mate they want to attract.
2. Some people know exactly what they want, but can't seem to find it, or it doesn't work out right.

My advice to these problems:
1. When you don't know what you want, you can't attract/obtain it.  That's like going to a grocery store without a grocery list. All the options are available to you, but you can't decided what you need to bring home to put in your refrigerator so you CAN EAT! So you will end up walking up and down the aisles trying to decide on something.. anything to bring home.  Apply that same idea to your life.  If you don't know the type of mate you want to attract, you could be in and out of relationships, or having many useless ones and feel completely lost.   
2. In this case, the person knows exactly what they want, but there is a catch.  In the Law of Attraction, thinking of what you want is correct but also it's the ability to allow yourself to RECEIVE what you want.  You could know the exact details of the man/woman you desire, but if you do not fully love yourself, or feel worthy to receive their love from this person, you will not.

My thoughts on what love means to ME

I am a romantic at heart.  I have always found the most beauty in the innocent of gestures, to the most heartwarming signs of affection. I read/write and sing poetry!! :)
But beyond the romanticized displays of affection, I do see beyond it. 
I believe love is to not change someone, to find their inner beauty to accept a spirit as they are.
Know that they are here for a purpose, to change you and your life for the better.
To grow and to change their life as well.
During my relationships, when I look back now at them, I see what went wrong (or right in this case) and the purpose of what each relationship did for me.
I have never harbored any resentment or bitter feelings.
I appreciated each heartbreak, to grow into a better person.
I now know that love is not finding someone to complete you.
It is the union of two complete spirits coming together.
If you do not love yourself completely, you cannot have someone love you completely.
Simple as that.

During this time of me working on myself and my inner spirit, I am growing more and more knowledgable of my strength and worth.
Love is not control, or possession, or pushing someone's jealousy button as punishment.
I should not want to purposely hurt you or make you angry for my own entertainment.  That's cruel.
Love is understanding oneself to understand another.
To love myself more each day and accept my flaws and insecurities is my strength. 
Coming to this realization, I know, that the next man I fall in love with, I will be able to accept his flaws and insecurities as well. 
I will be able to love him as unconditionally as I love myself.
Love is infinite, if you allow it to be.